Driving & Perfectionism... A personal experience|
Jul 14
2009
|
Driving & Perfectionism... A personal experience_MB_POSTED_BY admin in perfectionism  |
|
So I normally don't get into my personal life much here...that isn't really why I blog.
But I thought I would share one little "secret" of mine and my reflections on it over the past week.
I am 25 & I don't have a driver's license.
(Maybe I should have mailed this anonymously to PostSecrets or something instead! haha)
Yes, that's right... I am about to be married...about to have my Master's degree in counseling...I can do therapy with children and groups and follow brain based therapeutic models that even I can't pronounce...but yet I have not yet learned to drive. There are several reasons why...none of which really matter anymore because, frankly, I'm fed up. Sick of asking friends to cart me here or there, Really sick of having to speed shop at my favorite stores because my poor (soon to be) husband has to tag along, etc.. There will be some growing pains I'm sure- but I am already relishing my impending freedom.
As you know, this only proves that no matter who you are or where you come from you have your own issues. We all do...and thats okay! (Say it with me...)
So, like I said- I'm fed up....I decided to take behind the wheel training again. I am taking it through Desert Driving School (free plug!) with Scott- who is the CEO. He has been great; does a good job of putting me at ease and not making me feel like I'm special ed. So if you are in the Phoenix area and need such services I highly recommend them.
Anyway, after doing some driving over the past couple weeks I'm feeling much more comfortable and could be terrorizing the road without a licensed passenger in no time. (Scott, if you are reading this- I promise I won't actually terrorize the road, I will be very responsible and make my head checks before I change lanes and not let other jerk drivers frazzle me...haha.)
My new found realization (see below) has everything to do with the new copy of Scienftic American Mind that I just received called "Can You Be Too Perfect?"
Perfectionists, research shows, can become easily discouraged by failing to meet impossibly high standards, making them reluctant to take on new challenges or even complete agreed-upon tasks. The insistence on dotting all the i’s can also breed inefficiency, causing delays, work overload and even poor results. Perfectionism can hurt health and relationships, too. It is associated with anorexia, obsessive-compulsive disorder, social anxiety, writer’s block, alcoholism and depression. Such problems may be prevalent: a 2007 study that evaluated more than 1,500 college students revealed that nearly one quarter of them suffered from an unhealthy form of perfectionism."
Reluctant to take on new challenges- yup....(driving: case in point)
Difficulty completing agreed upon tasks-yup (when I can't do them "up to par" I put them off...)
Writer's block- Doh!
Here is the biggest thing I have learned from driving again...
We all make 1000's of mistakes every day. I made so many mistakes the first day back on the road that I could have easily believed that driving was not for me, again. Problem is- I was still behind the wheel of a car...I still had the responsibility of my own life, the life of my passenger and the others around me in my hands. Those mistakes HAD (and have to) roll right off. Sure you learn and try not to do it again (I still content that a car is a rolling weapon- must use with caution!) BUT you can't let those mistakes get you down.
There is no way to obtain Driving Perfection... I (at least in the rhelm of driving) HAVE TO convert my un-healthy self-effacing perfectionism into the healthy kind. I have no choice... I can not and will no longer restrict my opportunities to live as I want or go where I want. Hopefully I can translate this new found "Imperfection-ism" into other parts of my life- maybe I'll post more often and turn my graduate school papers in on time....maybe. ;)
Thanks for reading!
-The soon to be Driving Madly Blogger
TrackBack URI for this entry
Subscribe to this comment's feed
written by ugg boots on sale, January 06, 2010
-
- +0
-
-
written by hotuggs, January 07, 2010
According to Taiwan media reports, Taiwan's "National Security Council" immediately after learning of the message request "Board of Foreign Trade," an investigation. It was established that the equipment is not a "controlled."
cheap ugg boots
According to reports, rumors of Iran's development of nuclear weapons has been a headache for the West, Taiwan manufacturers sell can be made to steal nuclear weapons parts to Iran, the United States quite dissatisfied. But the KMT's "legislator" Shuai Hua-min said that this was a "fantasy", he said that Taiwan does not have nuclear weapons.
-
- +0
-
-
written by topugg boots, January 07, 2010
-
- +0
-
-
written by uggs outlet, January 15, 2010
What keeps us alive, what allows us to endure?
I think it is the hope of loving,
or being loved.
I heard a fable once about the sun going on a journey
to find its Ugg Boots source, and how the moon wept
without her lover’s
warm gaze.
We weep when light does not reach our hearts. We wither
like fields if Uggs Outlet someone close
does not rain their
kindness
upon
us.--------------------《The Hope of Loving》
-
- +0
-
-
written by ugg boots, February 07, 2010
-
- +0
-
-
written by ed hardy outlet, February 25, 2010
-
- +0
-
-
written by ed hardy, February 25, 2010
http://www.ed-hardy.cc ed hardy for sale to the United States – soon the boots were a fashionable choice with the California surfer set, and these days are even seen in fashion shows of the worlds finest designers.
-
- +0
-
-
written by hiSunglasses, March 02, 2010
-
- +0
-
-
written by meng, March 07, 2010
-
- +0
-
-
running shoes not even a single blood test can detect HGH, but a series of blood tests administered over many weeks to detect the fluctuations causes by high doses of the stuff. Some folks have pituitary issues that can cause false positives. I spoke with a neurologist in depth on this subject, and he postulates that anywhere from 1 in 10 to 1 in 4 people have some kind of undetected tumor on their pituitary gland. Since that glad is the master control for all your glandsugg outlet, a person can have some really weird hormonal balances, not just hgh, but ANY hormone. So it's all a sticky wicket in that HGH testing isn't a test to detect cheaters that same way polygraphs don't detect lies.